Is this real life?

whitecaped:

Why do women hate cat calls so much?

This is a serious question, I’ve seen a lot of backlash against them and I would like to know the reason.

A cat call is a quick way of saying “Girl u lookin fine”. Personally, if I a group of random girls told me how fine I looked I would stand taller and…

I find catcalls offensive because they make me feel self conscious. When I wake up in the morning, and get dressed, I do it for me. I like to look good for myself, because I am confident in my style. For every guy who politely tells me “I like your dress”, there are a dozen guys before him, screaming “WHOOOOOO! FUCK YAAAAAAA!” as they pass me in a car, or will slap my ass and run away. You might think that I am over-exaggerating, but I’m not. Shit like that happens to me literally everyday. I have had people touch my tattoos, try to grope me, or invade my personal space in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable and threatened. You might not mind if someone comments on your looks, but it isn’t always a polite comment. When I’m told how fuckable I look, I want to crawl into a hole. What if I’m on my way to work at that moment? Now I start wondering “am I dressed inappropriately? Are the guys at work going to bother me too? Fuck. I hope I have a sweater at my desk.” 

I have had a guy slow down his car, and cut me off at a crosswalk because I flipped him off when he catcalled me. I have had a fucking bottle of soda chucked at me from a van full of guys, because I told them to go away when my friend and I were waiting for a bus at night. They opened the side door, and all of them started making sexual jokes at us. Then they tried to offer us a ride. So I told them to fuck off, and they circled the block, slowed down, and threw a bottle at us. This is the reality for a lot of women. So when you think you are going to make my day by saying “hey beautiful” or whatever, I’m thinking “oh great. I hope he doesn’t get pissed off and try to hurt me if I don’t respond. Fuck, just get out of here”. And I know, you aren’t meaning to be “that guy” who throws shit at women when they reject you, but they don’t know that! And I know that you are just trying to give a compliment, but what makes you so special that interrupting a woman as she is walking down the street is suddenly going to turn around her day for the better? What if she is late for the bus? What if she is going to work? What if she just found out someone died? She might be on her way for some important shit, and she just wants to get there. Let her do that. If you are looking to pick up, go to a bar or something. Go to a place that is meant for socialization where you know that it is appropriate to ask a woman for her number, or chat her up. 

tl;dr: Cat calls make me feel self-conscious about my appearance. They make me feel sexualized in a gross way, and they make me fear for my safety because of past experiences.